What is your purpose in life? What is your why? What is that thing that drives you? Who are you outside of the societal roles you have bestowed upon yourself?

Seriously, stop what you are doing and answer the questions, or realize you can’t…

The term is Human Being, not Human Doing. You are allowed to just exist, simply because you can. So get rid of the idea that work and children are your purpose. I am going to make a few points that may ruffle some feathers, but none the less will be made to enhance your quality of life.

First on the chopping block, parents/legal guardians. First, parenthood is a societal role, not your purpose in life, your why, nor the thing that drives you. Hear me out, yes they are little tools of motivation, but so is wanting a new car. You existed before children, they enhanced your quality of life, they should never become your life. You live for you, showing up whole to raise and guide them, displaying what it’s like to live a purpose filled life. I always cringe when I hear people say, “My kids are my whole life, I live for them”. How unfair is it to place your quality of life on the shoulders of tiny humans? And then you raise them up to leave the nest, now you are searching for a purpose, because you’ve lost you and lived to be a robotic provider with no driving force. How is it that you can teach kids to have a hobby, passion, focus and drive, but don’t lead by example. If your children are old enough, ask them what do you like to do and what are your hobbies? If your answers are along the lines of “I don’t know, playing with me, watching TV, going to my games etc.” I’ve got bad news. Go find your why. I promise it’s not on the backs of your children, and how dare you put that weight on them.

Next up, students of life. My drifters, transits, and cruisers. The ones who get up and go, never really headed anywhere in particular. The lifestyle is beautiful, way to exist outside of societal judgment and taxes. But listen, what is it all for? Are you teaching or just not doing because rebellion is fun? Did you just not find anything you were good at, had too much pressure at home, no home? I am never here to tell people how to live, the goal is to inspire your why to live. Why is your lifestyle yours? In that you’ll find your purpose. Make it count.

Finally, the people who just don’t know. The people who may have married young, working while they figure it out, in college, or even in between ideas. For the people who dream about their future selves but have no idea how to reach that version of you…get active. You will never find your why by doing the same thing every single day. If you are unconsciously navigating through your day to day, doing the same routine week to week, month to month, you will not find your spark. It’s adventure time.

Regardless of your life circumstance or role in society the message is still the same. Without the thing that makes your life worth living, without fulfilling your purpose and putting the why of your life in the roles you took on, you will never find your true self. God forbid anything happen to you, but if you ever got into an accident and couldn’t perform parent duties or spousal responsibilities, do you see how you would feel like your life is meaningless and pointless. You are so so so much more, go find it.

-Journey

To find a starting place for your adventure