Instant gratification has taken over the last few years. Instant bodies, instant status over viral videos, instant money by scamming. The “work for it, era” rest on the shoulders of millennials as Gen Z wants it NOW. This energy is seeping into all generations, and I can’t help but to address it. You aren’t getting what you want because of two things…You are doing nothing in your waiting, and you aren’t making room for what you are asking.

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First, you are asking for things and then anxiously waiting as if you don’t need to be preparing for what you have asked for. You aren’t even making room for something to prosper, setting yourself up for failure. Let’s talk relationships…Say you want a partner who loves traveling, outdoors, fine dining etc. Yet, you don’t have a passport, looking for partners in clubs, and don’t know fine dining etiquette. Doesn’t make sense, does it? What about careers, you want a better salary, a promotion, or new career all together. So, what is the preparation? Have you studied on what the promotion entails and adjusted to fit the new demands, study new material, talk to others in the role etc. There is no preparation, just wanting something and hoping it falls out the sky, then scrambling if you do get it because you desired something you weren’t prepared for.

Productive Waiting is the term to be exercised.

Second, making room for what you are asking. I see this so much in my sessions. One main example is wanting a live-in partner, then being frustrated at them moving things and taking up space. You must make room for what you want. Think about what you want, now think about what needs to adjust to make room it. If you are ready for a relationship, are you making room for their emotions? Are you making room for you no longer being the center of the world and needing to inform someone else before you make decisions?

Cognitive preparation is the term to be exercised.

Now, we face the truth on this blog, so I must promise you that neither of these terms are easy to exercise. In your waiting you may be getting rid of things, habits, and people you love. You go for a promotion and realize your friends were only cool with you because you weren’t doing better than them. You may want a relationship and realize how many toxic habits you need to release. You may realize in your cognitive prep you lack discipline. Ugly truths will reveal themselves. But would you rather them in preparation or in the middle of reaping your harvest?

The challenge is to make use of your waiting. Stop pouting and complaining because it’s not your turn yet. You aren’t ready for it, if you got it now it wouldn’t be as prosperous. Every time you desire something, think of all the things that need to be aligned for it to work in your favor. Think of the mental adjustments and life changes.

Let the fabric of the cosmos weave things in your favor, and that my dear, takes time.

-Woven