I was speaking on a panel about self-awareness and positively expressing emotions. This beautiful soul asked me something along the lines of, “How do I maintain relationships where they have a hard time accepting the new me?”…I replied, “You don’t”. We have this habit of knowing the rules of the universe, but not applying them to our own.

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We learn about evolution as being this event that has taken place millions of years ago separated into eons. Points in time where things adapted, evolved, or went extinct. We all grasp this concept when it comes to dinosaurs and breathing oxygen, but somehow forget that we live in our own world and the same rules apply.

First you must realize that you live in your own universe. Your reality shaped by the world you create. How your hours, days, years go is a direct reflection of how you choose to exist. Your perception shapes your reality.

As you evolve the conditions it takes to survive in your world change, but only you can come up with the consequences for inadequate adaptations. When oxygen took over the world symbiotic relationships formed, creatures adapted, and many species went completely extinct. These three things were the consequences of evolution. How can you apply these three rules to your universe?

In both symbiotic and adaptive relationships, your evolution is necessary. You can evolve in a way they force your surroundings to adjust and thrive. You will have people who want to create relationships that help you stay in this evolved world with their contributions while you do the same or them in theirs. As well as have people who value you so much that they adapt and adjust just to be able to live in thrive in this new atmosphere.

But your world wouldn’t be balanced with the laws of the universe if extinction was not a part of the equation. Humanity is not exempt to the rules, nor are the relationships you’ve developed over the years.

In order for things to go extinct, they had to exist in the first place. So, it’s ok to acknowledge the years invested, the genuine emotions and care…but only you choose to let the laws of change take their course. No one said release would be easy, but are you willing to jeopardize your new world for it?

If you’ve evolved and are completely emersed in your new world the things that die are only those who didn’t see the value in adapting or adjusting. Think about the relationships and people that have the ability to take you back into your old existence. Why are you so committed to their existence over your evolution? You are either for you or against you.

Your evolution depends on you not abandoning yourself. You can only be dedicated to one version of you. Let the things meant to go extinct do so. And the most beautiful part of is all…You have nothing to do but evolve. The things that survive around you, are the things that recognize you are worth growth.

Let your new world be full of relationships that never make you question your worth, because their mere existence is proof you are worth moving worlds for.  

-Symbiotic