Three months left in this year. Months ago, we held hands and embarked on a journey of happy and healthy together, and what a journey it’s been. If you’ve read the blogs, accepted the challenges, and truly applied them…you are in one of two spaces right now. The first space is not so fun and a bit lonely as you realize enforcing your boundaries and learning yourself will eliminate everyone who benefitted from your easiness. The others are in a space of peace, enjoying the release of useless connections, and embracing new genuine encounters. Go back, read, and apply what you’ve missed. The message for the last three months is TIME.

I know time is an illusion, but so is everything else, so for the sake of joy we won’t waste it.

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I remember when I was working in corporate, over 50 hours a week and of course on salary. I never had time, I never had time for college, for friends, for dinners, for hobbies…just work. Then something went wrong in my townhouse, and I had to wait hours for someone to get to my home and fix the problem. I had to take off work that day, got a lot of much needed things done around the house, and was even able to get in some self-care. I realized I had the time, I had great time management, I just wasn’t a priority. The time was there, I just didn’t utilize it for me.

This is the lesson.

This applies to mothers, entrepreneurs, students, and a mixture of everything in between. Listen closely…you have the time. You have the time to put you first, to pamper yourself, to enjoy your pleasures, to say no, to say yes, to chase dreams. You have the time.

The time will pass no matter what.

You can either be proud how you spent it or regret the steps you didn’t take. I can hear parents now, “she doesn’t have kids, she wouldn’t understand” I promise there is time there for you, you don’t see it because you’ve decided living for your children is your life’s purpose. Until you think otherwise, you’re right…the time is not there.

You make time for what’s most important, and if your mental health, well-being, and real dreams are not important…you’ll never have time for them. You’ll never see the time that’s there waiting for you to manage it accordingly. You’ll keep living in a routine that never puts you first. You’ll keep saying next year, when the kids are out of the house, or after my promotion. Excuse after excuse when in your reality, all those things are just more important than your goals and you.

Think about it like this, if you are the most important thing in your life, you would operate as such. If you think your kids are the most important thing in your life or your career, your spouse, your pets…you operate as such. Look at your life and ask yourself…if I were to analyze my day to day, who is the most important in my life? If it’s not you…it’s time to make some serious changes.

Contrary to popular belief it takes, on average, 66 days to form a habit. You need the rest of this year to decide you are the most important thing in your life…then adjust. It takes real effort to change the way your brain thinks. But remember, you are the star of the show…every single day. No one comes before you, and if they do…unpack why.

“If I only had more time…”

You can only live and die for you. You have a fixed amount of time in your human experience, every single day your time clock winds down…what will you do with the time you have left.

–You First.