Author Archives: Raquel Brewer

The Healing Power of Forgiveness in Marriage

Title: The Healing Power of Forgiveness in Marriage

In the journey of marriage, one of the most profound and transformative experiences is the act of forgiveness. It is a concept that is often easier said than done, yet its impact can be truly miraculous. Forgiveness has the power to heal wounds, mend broken hearts, and strengthen the bond between partners in ways that nothing else can.

Marriage is a sacred union between two individuals, each with their own set of strengths, weaknesses, and imperfections. It is inevitable that conflicts will arise, misunderstandings will occur, and mistakes will be made. In these moments of strife, forgiveness serves as a beacon of hope and a pathway to reconciliation.

Forgiveness in marriage is not about forgetting or excusing the hurtful actions of our partners. It is about choosing to let go of resentment, anger, and the desire for revenge. It is a conscious decision to release the negative emotions that weigh us down and prevent us from moving forward together.

When we forgive our partners, we free ourselves from the burden of carrying around past grievances. We create space for understanding, empathy, and compassion to flourish. Forgiveness allows us to see our partners in a new light, with greater clarity and acceptance. It opens the door to honest communication, vulnerability, and a deeper emotional connection.

However, forgiveness is a process that requires time, patience, and effort. It may not happen overnight, and it may involve multiple steps of reflection, introspection, and dialogue. It is important for both partners to be willing to engage in this process with an open heart and a willingness to listen and understand each other’s perspectives.

In practicing forgiveness, it is essential to set healthy boundaries, communicate our needs and expectations, and work towards rebuilding trust. It is also important to seek support from a therapist, counselor, or mentor who can provide guidance and help navigate the complexities of forgiveness in marriage.

Ultimately, forgiveness is a gift that we give not only to our partners but also to ourselves. It is a gift of freedom, peace, and love that has the power to transform our relationships and our lives. As we embrace the healing power of forgiveness in marriage, we pave the way for a future filled with joy, harmony, and lasting intimacy.

May we all have the courage and wisdom to forgive, to let go, and to love unconditionally in our marriages. For in forgiveness, we find true liberation and the promise of a brighter tomorrow together.

– Rooting for you

The power of journaling

n a world filled with constant noise and chaos, finding moments of peace and clarity can feel like a luxury. However, one simple yet powerful tool that can help in this journey is journaling. The act of putting pen to paper and expressing your thoughts, feelings, and experiences can have a profound impact on your mental health and overall well-being.

Journaling serves as a form of self-expression and reflection, allowing you to process your emotions and make sense of your thoughts. By writing down your worries, fears, and anxieties, you can release them from your mind and create space for more positive and empowering thoughts. This practice can help reduce stress, anxiety, and even symptoms of depression.

Moreover, keeping a journal can provide a sense of clarity and perspective on your life. As you document your daily experiences and challenges, you may start to see patterns or triggers that contribute to your mental health struggles. This awareness can empower you to make positive changes and take control of your emotional well-being.

Journaling can also act as a form of self-care and self-discovery. By setting aside time each day to write in your journal, you are prioritizing your mental health and giving yourself the gift of reflection and introspection. This practice can help you cultivate a deeper understanding of yourself, your values, and your goals, leading to increased self-awareness and self-compassion.

In essence, journaling is a simple yet effective tool that can have a profound impact on your mental health. Whether you’re looking to manage stress, improve your mood, or gain insight into your inner world, the act of journaling can be a powerful ally on your journey to emotional well-being. So why not pick up a pen and start writing your way to a healthier mind today?

AUDACITY

AUDACITY

Noun

  1. A willingness to take bold risks

Similar to: boldness, daring, fearless

We are two weeks into the news year and let’s admit it, this is the time where those new year resolutions are looking real “next year ish”. Well I am here to look you in the eye and say “don’t you even think about slacking off”…

Let’s chat.

The word for the year is Audacity -this is the year of audacity-. I know this word has a negative connotation because of it’s second definition of rude or disrespectful, but that’s definition number two for a reason. Your goals, your wildest dreams, your most daring adventures can only exist if you have the audacity to go after them.

I dare you to have the audacity to go after everything you desire with verve. I dare you to let go of anything that doesn’t serve you, remove anyone who means you harm, and walk away from things that steal your joy. I want you to have the nerve to say no without explanation, to enforce your boundaries, and put you first.

Last year we focused on skills to make it the best year of your life. So, this year it’s only right you have the audacity to chase it, obtain in, then maintain it.

Let me be transparent, last year I overextended myself, I was quiet when I should have spoken up, I defended others before defending myself, I let people treat me poorly without consequence. Reflection on those things with my partner and colleagues is where I came up with the word for the year. I’ve fought a lot in life so felt like some battles just weren’t worth it, when in reality the fight never stops, it just looks different. You are always worth fighting for, you are always worth defending, no matter who tries to tell you otherwise. Your version of events matter, your reality matters. After all, only you exist in your universe, everyone else is just extras who come and go as you see fit.

Lose the friends, lose the partnerships, lose the relationship. Have the audacity to walk in your truth so boldly. Start the business, go after that promotion, have that difficult conversation.

Your life depends on your audacity to pray God size prayers and your ability to remove any hate in your heart. It’s never too late.

-With Love,

Fearlessness

Intentional

Chapter one page 14… Last year we focused on making it the best year of our life. Personally, mentally, physically, professionally…and most importantly we did it together. We shed so much, released some habits, released some people, and released self-doubt. So, after all that work, how can we maintain it? If this is your first year joining the lifelong journey of happy and healthy, welcome. Intent…Let’s Chat I started of the year struggling to come up with a concept for my first blog. Needing it to be a seamless transition from one year to the next…one concept to the next. Something so easily digestible and relatable. Chasing that perfection caused me to push the first blog of the year back two weeks. Let this be lesson. Waiting for perfection will only delay your blessings. How will you know what your perfect will grow into if you don’t start? How will you know the feedback if you never put out the material? Do it scared. Do it Nervous. Do it anxious. Most of all do it with good intentions. Give it your genuine best and watch your best flourish. This year will be intentional. If you are building new connections, launching new products, dating again, reconnecting with family, starting new friendships, ending friendships, etc. Make it INTENTIONAL. Think about your end goal for this year, is what you’re about to do going to help you get there? This year is the year of intent. We will hold our self-accountable, hold people around us accountable and do everything with pure intentions. Every month we will have a new challenge to work on. Welcome to 2023

Thankful

As long as I can remember I’ve always said, “I don’t do holidays”. truthfully, I never did. I never enjoyed the holidays, yet I was always looking at others feeling envious of what they had, then jealous cause I didn’t have it.

Was it that I didn’t do holidays, or that I had never done them because the time of year was tied to negative memories in my youth. Let’s chat.

As someone raised on survival, but living in love, I had to let go of all things keeping me in survival mode…even the memories keeping me attached to the negative parts of life, and causing me to bring them into the present. I was using what I had been through as an excuses to behave a certain way. I had to analyze how many parts of my attitude was built on past excuses.

Now, I love the holidays. This is my second holiday living in love and I realized this time of year is what ever I make it. I’ve created my own little holiday traditions, and gave this year meaning to me and my family. No longer letting anything i’ve been through taint any aspect of my new life.

In happy and healthy we can recognize what we’ve been through, while not letting it define us, or keeping us in a chokehold. What you’ve survived, you survived…and let’s be honest, many people don’t. Let that strength be what makes you brave enough to embrace what’s in front of you. Be weightless.

I am so grateful for the continued support and growth of Raquel’s Turn. Having a mental health platform for all walks of life, while doing life is not as easy. I have so many plans for third year of happy and healthy, and as always I hope you continue this journey with me.

From my heart, Thank you. 1,000 subs and counting.

Self

November 1, 2022.

The month of self. Realignment, Refuel, Refocus. The month to look in the mirror and reflect, but how to do this in the healthiest way possible?

Let’s Chat…

It’s kind of wild when you think about it, but one of the hardest things to do is put yourself first. If you are a parent, in a relationship, have a demanding job, have family members who need you, have friendships to maintain, “you first” seems impossible. Like some fantasy version of reality. There are all these things that take up a piece of you and leaving you with only a piece of yourself.

Whelp, this month we are putting ourselves first. Don’t worry, we are in this together, so hold my hand (virtually), and let’s implement some things…starting today.

First things first, we are waking up and asking ourselves two things; “what do I need to do today” and “what do I want to do today”. Now the trick is to stick with it. The times you would normally say yes to everyone else, must become a hard no. And remember “No” is a complete sentence, in other words, you can provide an explanation, but it’s not required.

Next, we need to write out our big goals and see what we can reasonably accomplish this month that make those big goals more obtainable. Ask yourself, “what can make me one step closer to my goals”. This will allow you to realign anything that has fallen out place, remove things or people that keep you off track, and of course hold you accountable in achieving your goals. This also allows you a chance to celebrate at the end of the month, remember every accomplishment is STILL an accomplishment.

And lastly, focus on what brings you peace. When you are at a point of reflection and realigning staying centered and happy will be your biggest motivator. Some people have never had true happiness so they are easily distracted, but once you taste your true peace, you will protect it all cost. Your goals will be devoted to that peace and will give you a drive that even you didn’t know existed.

A word of advice don’t let anything be an excuse. Having children, a sick parent, school, work…nothing is an excuse. And if you make it an excuse hold yourself accountable. Say, “I don’t live for myself, I live for…and I ok with that because I don’t know how to exist peacefully within myself.” I bet that will make you do and see things differently.

November is all about you, and as your life coach…I am here to make sure you stick to it.

–Center Peace

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Behind The Business

Introduction

First and foremost, I want to personally welcome you to behind the business. This is an interactive space just for you, the business professional. The transferable skills needed in corporate, and entrepreneurship are one in the same, so no matter where your business resides…this space is your escape.

I’ve been in business for a decade, 8 years climbing the corporate ladder and two years on my own, creating spaces like this, for people like you. If you don’t know, I am student of psychology amongst many other things, and my specialty is human behavior. What in the hell would that have to do with business and business owners? Well, think of it like this, if you had a space to better understand consumerism, your clients, your own mental capacity, wouldn’t you be able to run a business that is less taxing? Wouldn’t your work life balance improve? Wouldn’t you develop skills like public speaking, client relations, target marketing, and more?

Better yet, don’t you want a space where you can say the things you can’t say a loud. A space to ask questions without being charged $500 for a brunch? Tell me if I’m wrong, but business is a daily mental battle, and some form of therapeutic intervention is needed but not always available. Well now it is.

This space will consist of but not limited to, weekly blogs, mental homework, advice responses, and business spotlights. What’s required of you is the dedication to your mental health and continued development. Commenting on post, doing the mental work, applying what you’ve learned, and of course asking for advice on anything business related. This blog is just as much yours as it is mine, so don’t be shy.

So, let’s get things started. This requires dedication. So, pick a time and day at the end of the week to review the blog, and do the activities that come with it. Purchase a new journal and notebook strictly for this space. Also, email me a little about yourself, your business, and what you hope to get out of this community! And finally, please comment on this blog a fun fact about you and what sets you apart as a business professional.

–The journey begins today

if you are not subscribed in the behind the business membership, this will be the only post you see in this series. When you are ready the community will be here waiting. Still, subscribe there is plenty of complimentary motivational blogs biweekly.

 If you need a private one in one session, or a session with your business partner please email me rlbeltexperience@gmail.com or click “book now” on the home page and schedule a “boss talk” one on one (up to three in one session at a time). Remember all of these are an expense right off.

Time

Three months left in this year. Months ago, we held hands and embarked on a journey of happy and healthy together, and what a journey it’s been. If you’ve read the blogs, accepted the challenges, and truly applied them…you are in one of two spaces right now. The first space is not so fun and a bit lonely as you realize enforcing your boundaries and learning yourself will eliminate everyone who benefitted from your easiness. The others are in a space of peace, enjoying the release of useless connections, and embracing new genuine encounters. Go back, read, and apply what you’ve missed. The message for the last three months is TIME.

I know time is an illusion, but so is everything else, so for the sake of joy we won’t waste it.

Let’s Chat…

I remember when I was working in corporate, over 50 hours a week and of course on salary. I never had time, I never had time for college, for friends, for dinners, for hobbies…just work. Then something went wrong in my townhouse, and I had to wait hours for someone to get to my home and fix the problem. I had to take off work that day, got a lot of much needed things done around the house, and was even able to get in some self-care. I realized I had the time, I had great time management, I just wasn’t a priority. The time was there, I just didn’t utilize it for me.

This is the lesson.

This applies to mothers, entrepreneurs, students, and a mixture of everything in between. Listen closely…you have the time. You have the time to put you first, to pamper yourself, to enjoy your pleasures, to say no, to say yes, to chase dreams. You have the time.

The time will pass no matter what.

You can either be proud how you spent it or regret the steps you didn’t take. I can hear parents now, “she doesn’t have kids, she wouldn’t understand” I promise there is time there for you, you don’t see it because you’ve decided living for your children is your life’s purpose. Until you think otherwise, you’re right…the time is not there.

You make time for what’s most important, and if your mental health, well-being, and real dreams are not important…you’ll never have time for them. You’ll never see the time that’s there waiting for you to manage it accordingly. You’ll keep living in a routine that never puts you first. You’ll keep saying next year, when the kids are out of the house, or after my promotion. Excuse after excuse when in your reality, all those things are just more important than your goals and you.

Think about it like this, if you are the most important thing in your life, you would operate as such. If you think your kids are the most important thing in your life or your career, your spouse, your pets…you operate as such. Look at your life and ask yourself…if I were to analyze my day to day, who is the most important in my life? If it’s not you…it’s time to make some serious changes.

Contrary to popular belief it takes, on average, 66 days to form a habit. You need the rest of this year to decide you are the most important thing in your life…then adjust. It takes real effort to change the way your brain thinks. But remember, you are the star of the show…every single day. No one comes before you, and if they do…unpack why.

“If I only had more time…”

You can only live and die for you. You have a fixed amount of time in your human experience, every single day your time clock winds down…what will you do with the time you have left.

–You First.

Elemental Reading

All of September I am going to post a weekly energy reading complimentary to everyone. I hope you enjoy and decide to join the energy tribe membership, where you have the ability to email me topics, reading suggestions and anything else energy related for me to blog on. Be sure to hit subscribe.

Earth Signs

The Golden Children: Inner child. Tenderness. Rare gifts. Innocence.

Golden children are constantly reincarnating on earth, highly intelligent, and have little to no personal karma. Highly gifted and intuitive, sometimes struggle with being present because they ger bored easily. This message is coming to you in for one of two reasons. You are either being asked to look after a golden child, or you are being asked to cater to your inner child. It may be time for you to start a new beginning, new project, or creative idea you have been putting off for too long. This can be a hard task for you earth sign because control is where you thrive. Release control and allow your soul to lead you. You’ll be surprised how much peace awaits you.

Mediate on releasing. What does that wait lifted feel like?

Air Signs

Called: Soul gifts and Training. It’s time to step up.

Air signs often live in this dual state of consciousness. One being this level of exploration and adventurous state, while this other is always trying to find meaning in everything. You are being reminded that your soul came here with a lot of gifts and a lot of missions. With great gifts come great responsibility. Remember that your soul set out to fulfill your purpose. That means that everything is aligned to see the mission through. Don’t second guess your soul. Go with it, don’t chase, attract.

Meditate…with all your current circumstances, what mission are you carrying out?

Fire Signs

The Great Severing: Mars Energy. Anger. Conflict. Softening to Love.

This is a shadow card, release your ego and listen. Life makes love seem difficult, it makes it seem like it’s something we must go through hell and high water for, and this is false. This is a reminder to your shadow self to release and find its way back to letting love in. Stop running from difficult emotions, admit them and stop the cycle of conflict. Ownership. Stop letting painful experience confirm your internal bias. You are the source of your mental turmoil, stop looking back.

Meditate on ownership. What is the source of your hurt, feel it?

Water Signs

Messenger: Sirius energy. Bringing harmony and Balance.

Sirius energy exudes a shade of blue, symbolizing love and harmony. Tasked with maintaining the balance of masculine and feminine energy. You need this reminder in your life, for some reason you are off balance. What energy have you been giving too much of and which too little? Better yet, evaluate what has had the power to throw you off balance? Are you giving things are people to much and it’s leaving you off balance?

Meditate on harmony. Focus on you being at the center of balance.

-Energy. InnerG.